Fundamental Attribution Error is “the tendency to believe that what people do reflects who they are”, (Wikipedia) that is, to overestimate the role of personality in what they do and underestimate the importance of the situation or context. i.e. if you bump into someone, it is an understandable mistake, if someone else bumps into you,Continue reading “Attribution Error”
We went to an introductory talk on my daughter’s school walking trip to Italy. Part of the presentation was by one of the women who would be leading the group; part was by one of the local, Italian guides. The woman was in charge. She had been doing this for many years and was clearContinue reading “Warmth”
Some apples look perfect on the outside, but taste of nothing; others might look imperfect, but they taste great.
When I was at university (some years ago) there was one class that was dominated by a handful of opinionated English public-school (i.e. fee-paying school) boys whose confidence was completely out of proportion to the value of their contribution. They talked loudly and without hesitation on topics they clearly knew very little about. Maybe it’sContinue reading “Hollow confidence”
Most of us would agree on the importance of thinking things through properly before we act. Thinking time ensures detailed, thorough and sometimes creative solutions. The more important the decision, the more consideration it deserves. But, at a certain point we need to stop deliberating and we need to find the courage to act. EvenContinue reading “A courage for gaps”
Sometimes it is the fear that is the problem, and you learn to fear the fear. I suspect the only solution is exposure. Safe, small steps which teach you to focus on the skills, not the emotions, and help you realise that these things are manageable. Start with a small, fat, old pony, for example,Continue reading “A fear of horses”
We need the courage to push out of our comfort zone, but sensitive people will find this more difficult than others
We need both sensitivity and resilience in equal amounts
It’s not that the world needs to listen more, it’s that the quiet need to speak up.
You need to be honest with yourself about your abilities and about your shortcomings. Your view of yourself should match reality! You need self-belief, but this should be tempered with humility: you should have the self-confidence to take on the things you can, but also have the humility to recognise your limitations. You shouldContinue reading “Authenticity”