The problem with ‘following your dreams’ is that those dreams tend to include all the upsides and none of the challenges.
There was an article in the paper about a middle-aged man who lived in his car. He had been a teacher, but had given up the ‘rat race’ to pursue his dream of becoming a professional musician. Despite his best efforts to present everything in the best possible light, the life he described sounded deeply depressing. He was living out of his car, travelling from one small pub gig to the next. Even though he had reduced his outgoings to a bare minimum, he was still barely earning enough from gigging to get by. It sounded like his dream was as far off as ever.
There is an idea that you can run away from the pressures in your life and find some completely stress-free environment – free from the pressure of relationships, of family, of money – but these people soon find that the pressures follow them to their new lives. Indeed, I think that in trying to reduce the pressure, we can end up making things much harder for ourselves.
“Wherever I go, there I am.” Whoever said that.
Note: photo from Raphael Ishkhanyan on Unsplash